Category: personal
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I can’t sleep.
Nothing helps anymore. I can’t shut my eyes and wait, because in that quiet stillness I have too much time to think. When I can think I can see the truth. The truth, such as my future drifting further and further away from me. Long out of my reach, it’s just a faint outline on the horizon. Eventually it’ll become a dot. Then it’ll disappear forever, taking all my dreams and hopes with it.
I get asked all the time, “what do you see yourself doing in the future?”
I tell them I see nothing. It may as well be true.
Nobody understands.
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I just want to be well again. I recognise a lot of this is self-inflicted bullshit (it would be silly to blame everything on mental illness – explanation is not an excuse) but still.
Maybe I should rephrase that as ‘stop being an idiot ‘.
On the plus side – I am always reluctant to talk about anything I am working on in case I jinx it – I wrote a large part of a script treatment yesterday and that was the first day I didn’t cry over anything. I listened to some of my favourite Queen songs, a joy that I suddenly lost last year when every single time I’d try even their upbeat stuff I’d burst into tears, thinking how fucking unfair it was that Freddie isn’t here, that he couldn’t see how he is still loved. The man whose last words to his fans was “I still love you.” The euphoria of BoRhap had worn off (not my love of the movie – I’ll die defending that movie just as i’ll die defending Christopher Nolan’s work that some have so gleefully misrepresented to outright lied about – just that I no longer found myself able to enjoy the fan side) Same with Nirvana and a lot of other bands and authors and films I love. Everything I loved was suddenly tainted.
I just couldn’t enjoy anything I used to. I’d watch stupidly camp movies because I couldn’t stomach anything else. Funnily enough, Candy (the novel) was one of the few things I could manage. Maybe it was the security blanket of experiences that I understood a little, but I had enough distance from it I could still get through it (I was skipping chapters though). One day I’ll get to the movie, but it still seems too soon. Yes, I know Heath has been gone 14 years, but that was a deep wound. I miss him everyday. People can think it’s stupid all they want. I’m beyond caring. I miss him. I don’t regret my tattoo tribute to Heath one bit. All the people I call muses have helped me through tough times, so people can take their judgemental crap and shove it up their ass.
That and Stephen King were anchors during a dreadful and lonely time. Movies, music and literature have always been my “friends”, and suddenly we weren’t friends anymore, just acquaintances that barely callled. Not the best comparison, but I’m recovering from a booster jab that knocked me back, the Christmas debacle (I may share that story one day, it was awful but also kind of funny) and blood samples I gave today. Cut me some slack. 😉
What I said in another post about my cemetery visits is true. I’ve always liked cemeteries – not for aesthetic reasons, but because I liked to imagine the stories of the dead.
I’ll never know anything about those people, and it is not my business to know then and now. I just felt a kinship with the dead because, to be blunt, I wanted to join them. In the past I could divert such feelings with whatever media I enjoyed. But I didn’t enjoy anything then. Maybe, as Jim Morrison sang with perfect morose inflection, this was the end.
am I glad I didn’t follow through? I don’t know. I feel I made a solid enough decision to “keep [myself] alive”. I guess that will have to do. Apologies to my family and friends if this is upsetting to read about. I love you all, but I can’t lie about what a struggle I went through either, and you had to put up with a lot of bullshit from me. I lash out sometimes when angry and unhappy. It’s not something I’m proud of. I hope you understand.
I originally wrote this on Instagram. I cleaned up the format, spelling and grammar but it is pretty much as is.
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I washed my face and hair
for the first time in recent memory
time seemed to have become like a dream
and I was unsure how long was long
(hours, days? Weeks surely weren’t possible).
A woman looked back, and her face pinched
in a quizzical expression because that woman
was not me. Worn, dark circles and eye creases
like train tracks long abandoned and leading to a station long gone.
But of course that was me,
that was who I let myself become.
I was the abandoned station. Forgotten except by the younger me
who broke the windows and scribbled obscene graffiti onto it
my mirror to the world. I hated her because she
let herself become derelict, and that’s what people saw me as
and I was furious that I could fail myself so badly.
I cleaned the stranger’s face with care,
it was time to start make repairs.
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When I woke up this morning – or, should I say, came out of my doze – I saw a beautiful white light painting the wall. I thought maybe – at last! – heaven had taken me home. Taken me to a kind, welcoming place where finally things are good, no more crying every day.
It was the dawn light. Because, as Hugh Jackman said in the The Prestige, the world is solid all the way through. Sometimes though, for just a minute, you can believe…
My life here is real, solid all the way through. My misery here is real. And I don’t know if it’ll ever change for the better.
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I wish I had kept the beautiful me. Instead I lost all of her. -
I destroyed one of my favourite dresses today. I was painting in it – my stupid fault – in the one corner of the bedroom I can work in. Our house is too small for anywhere else.
Thing with acrylic paint? It dries out. And when you’re depressed you don’t do much of anything. So my green paint dried so much I had to squeeze hard to get it out. All over my dress. I have an apron, so that was my fault. The small house, the careful savings of my benefits (for mental health issues)? Those are classist bullshit.
I just hate being so fucking stupid. Poor, stupid pathetic and thinking anyone wants to see what I make. All I make is pathetic rubbish.
Yesterday I found my first attempt at re-starting painting. I had printed out pictures of my “muses” to help reference from: Michael Carmen Pitt, Danusia Samal and Jamie Bochert. I hadn’t got to Rami Mslek yet. I looked at those accomplished and successful people and now I wonder what the fuck am I even doing?
I am a failure. That’s it. That’s all. I took a decent painting and ruined it because I thought I could make it better. I can’t even make my life better.
I don’t know what the hell I’m doing anymore.
I don’t know.
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I am sorry to bring this topic up again, but my disability benefits were paid today (I get £304 a month due to ill mental health) and after bills and debts owing, I now have 50p in my bank to show for it.
I am selling the clothes from the wardrobe for several pounds a shot and doing online surveys for pennies, but truthfully it’s making zero dents in my situation. I have had a few generous people donate already and I thank them graciously for their kindness. It means the world to me. I wish I did not have to keep making posts like this.
But I still need help. It’s that simple.
If you can possibly spare anything at all, my Cashapp is £SaferThanHeaven84, my ko-fi is:
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Many thanks for reading and supporting all my work this last year (or last few months I should say).
I hope you all have a great Christmas and New Year xxx
Bloody Roses 